tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2628903244626553483.post1717205100191256428..comments2014-02-21T09:06:37.346-08:00Comments on Life, Love & Lunacy: WHAT KIND OF LOVE?Ray & Carla Iveshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00647374179542008109noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2628903244626553483.post-9475665762587225982009-05-10T03:00:00.000-07:002009-05-10T03:00:00.000-07:00May God's love always flow through you and may He ...May God's love always flow through you and may He give you the strength you need each day! Carla, you're demonstrating God's kind of love (1 Corinthians 13).<br /><br />Your husband, you, and your family have been in our prayers. I'm so glad to hear that his cancer is contained and that he'll be cured after the surgery.<br /><br />~Urailak ("Fruit Bearer" on FB)<br />http://www.homeschoolblogger.com/servingtheKingofkings/LivingforGodhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14307464636991455275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2628903244626553483.post-11562855065600391082009-05-09T21:55:00.000-07:002009-05-09T21:55:00.000-07:00Hi Carla, what a heart felt post. As one who has l...Hi Carla, what a heart felt post. As one who has lived as a teenager through a parent with cancer let me tell you some things. <br /><br />The thing that meant the most to me was my parents' honesty. My mother had breast cancer. She battled it, on and off, for 12 years. Dad always told us what the latest stage was and what they were going to do. What I remember most about it, apart from the strain and pain (which cannot be avoided as in not necessarily bad) is my parents' devotion to each other. The honesty meant that my fear was less. <br /><br />Sometimes things have to be compromised when the parent is sick but, I know I now would always prefer my family to the compromise. I know I didn't handle it all with the maturity I needed at the time but I look back with gratefulness now. I also learnt to cook lol.<br /><br />My parents' love was shown through the patience given, their conversations taken, the time they spent with each other. They prayed together, shared their fears and cried together. Dad changed medicine doses, hand fed her when needed and hired a cleaner. He made sure he got enough sleep, had friends watch her when he needed time out for sanity. <br /><br />Don't be afraid to ask for help. If you need time for yourself for your own physical health, don't be afraid to take it. Others can cook meals, others can pick up your kids and take them places. <br /><br />One of the greatest gifts you can give to your kids is the ability to ask for help. You don't need to be 'all providing', 'all able'. Spend the day with your hubby and have that sleep in you need. Your kids won't resent you if you talk to them.<br /><br />Your hubby will love you for the small things you do day to day. You don't need to 'do' you just need to 'be'. At the end of the day our most precious memories and the things we remember are the moments.mezziGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02904610630563657923noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2628903244626553483.post-30547206857461368952009-05-08T08:45:00.000-07:002009-05-08T08:45:00.000-07:00Great post, Carla - really thought provoking and t...Great post, Carla - really thought provoking and true and we work on almost 28 years - and recently been through a "testing" period of our own to really shake us up. Love is never the same after that - and in some ways I say, "Thank goodness for the shaking up".Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2628903244626553483.post-17987678706798912592009-05-08T07:15:00.000-07:002009-05-08T07:15:00.000-07:00Only with God are you able to do what you need to ...Only with God are you able to do what you need to do for your husband and family. This is God's love the best kind of love. I have been praying for you and your family.Tally Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17445640555424731799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2628903244626553483.post-16177553703146127272009-05-07T21:24:00.000-07:002009-05-07T21:24:00.000-07:00This is absolutely beautiful Carla!This is absolutely beautiful Carla!Rich and JoJo Tabareshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04742131136597093858noreply@blogger.com